Ohh I have to get it all out.....Sssssssoooooooo much has been going on in this little head and stressful life of mine so let my pour my thoughts out......
Thank God its all over.....Everything went well by His grace. I cant believe that we ended up hosting over 200 people... Talk abt people inviting themselves... But it wasnt bad cus there was more than enough food to go around. lets just say i was running around like a headless chicken from abt 3pm when Menu menu started until about 2am ..whn i finally went to bed...ok ok that's a bit of over exaggerating i did have a few beaks to sit down and chill but trust me i was drained ..haaba....!!
So a few days after the Ikomo my Man switched on me all of a sudden ...accusing me of being too comfortable in our relationship because I do not seem to be taking any proactive actions n order for our relationship to move to the next level (marriage) ei my people it is not easy ooh !!
I must confess that i have been a bit laid back of late but it is not easy when ur mum does not approve of the guy you have been seeing for over 6 years .. because he is not from the same country as u and also of the a different religion. My man and i have tried my very best to make my mum see that she needn't worry as we have thought abt these things carefully and have decided on how to make things work .
I know that my mum is only concerned and being protective but she needs to understand that .. the fact that i get married to someone from the same tribe , country or religion as myself does not gaurantee a happy marriage. It is up to the couple to compromise on their differences and make their marriage a success. I just dont know why everyone (uncles & aunties ) see my point and have advised my mum to give my relationship a chance but she just wont budge!
So i have decided to break the news to my mum......Lord help me ..... i dunno how she is going to take it as she mentioned a months ago that she has nothing more to say abt my relationship(u know what mothers are like ) but i dunno if that means that she accepts my relationship even though she is not keen on it or is that an African mums way of saying U WAIT & SEE WHAT I WILL DO!
What my mum fails to realise is that..s he and my man are ssoo alike and i know that they will get on so well together.....But she has never given him a chance.
I don't blame my man for switching on me anyway.. i understand how he feels .. he has put up with this behaviuor for over 6yrs and still loves me to bits even though my mum never really gives him a chance. God Bless him...He is such a figther and i love him soo much.for always being there and having my back.
I am soo scared of what my mums reaction will be......what if she decides not to give us her blessing ...........i love my man and want to spend the rest of my life with him .. i don't want to loose him after all these years..... so here goes ...Wish me luck......
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Ay, pobrecita...I hope all goes well with your mother, but more than that, I pray God's will be done. Thank you so very much for stopping by my page! Everyone has different writing styles, and I like yours just as much.
wow!i hope it goes well!my mom too is like that!i dont know how she will react if i bring home a non-nigerian she will flip!but break it to her gently!tell her that he is the amn that completes you and who God has ordained..God doesnt care about nationality !good luck!
ahwwwww eiyaaa
I really don't know what to tell u.
I cannot say to disobey mummy
I cannot also tell you to let go of the love of your life. Mummy knows what she's doing. She's only trying to protect your interest and don't blame her for that. ... A lot of people have been in the same shoe you are now in... some were fine until they got married... I pray and hope yours will not be that way. before you go to mum about your man's issue, pray and seek God's guidiance. Gurl, do not ocmpromise true love 4 anything...Follow your heart to the right part.
Like you said b4,
she's just being apprehensive, u know how mothers can get, she just wants the best for you, you'll just have to wean her to the idea, it'll take some adjustment,but God's on your side. If you guys are spiritual, just pray and ask the HS to go ahead of you and minister to her.
Everything will be fine, you'll see.
You cant really blame her. all mothers(well maybe not all) are like that. I think if u can find someone she knows that got married to someone else with a different background and religion, that might help.U need a case stgudy to back urs up.
Try it, it just might help
i sdmire ur bravery. do stay with ur man and fight to be together, hopefully mama will comeround later...it has happened lotsa times.
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