Update breaking the news....Refection Time - B'day

Ugo Daniels make u no vex oooh jare.... I have just been busy doing a few things here and there.. u know how we do...

So my people My heart is still in my backside ohhhh ... I still ha vent broken the news to my mum yet.. it seems as if she knows what is about to happen ....she normally works for about 3 weeks and comes home for a week but this time she has been gone for more than 6 weeks.

But no stress cause I have been using the time to do a bit of underground work to cover my backside -- if u know what i mean. I have been speaking a few relatives on my mums side like my mums older brother and my cousins just to keep them on stand by as i might be needing them to help me reason with my mum once i 'drop the bomb'.
And so far i things are looking good and i must say i feel a bit positive about the whole thing now.
I definitely know that my mum will kick a big fuss once i break the news to her but at least all there will be no one to side with her as I have managed to get my Uncles, Aunts and cousins on board (they've all known the situation from the beginning and feel that my momsi is overdoing things)

I know that if worst comes to worst, my Uncles on my fathers side /fathers family are the ones who will give me away but i still feel that my mums blessing is key and will make my man and i even happier.

Oh gah ju........all this wahalal just because I WANT MARRY MY SWEETHEART OOH.

Oh and at least i wont be breaking the news to her on my own as my uncle and oldest cousin have offered to sit with me when i decide to fill my mum in, at least there will be someone to hide behind in case she decided to land me one....lol (just joking)

So my people that's its for now ooh the waiting continues...... Thanks for all the support and advise.. i really appreciate it.

So ....My birthday was just another ordinary day ... nothing special.. i kept things on the D_low. I had decided to go into work the week before but i decided not to at the last minute cause i didn't want those silly ass people at work to start thinking that i don't have a life (not that there is anything wrong with working on your birthday ooh i beg)

i had been feeling very low a few weeks before my birthday which was a bit strange .. not that i get hyper about my birthdays at all just that i had never felt this depressed about my birthday before. I think it also had to do with the fact that i was still worried about this whole braking the news to my mum shenanigan.
Everyone kept asking me what i was doing for my birthday cause my man and i are well known for throwing the best Barbecue parties and everyone had been waiting for their invitation to my B'day BBQ. Lets just say they were all disappointed when i told them that I was taking this easy this year.

My man and i have a tradition giving presents at midnight (the first few mins of the new day) so i intentionally had my nightly shower a little earlier than usual and got into bed. and that was when my emotions got the best of me.
I said my prayers tearfully ....Thanking God for my life and all the wonderful things he had done for me in my _ years on earth....blah blah blah. I calmed down after my prayers and started to reflect on the past years and what i have managed to achieve so far (trust me it has not been easy at all)..I tried to console myself that someone somewhere is probably going thorough worse and that i have to be Thankful for what i have.

At this point my man walked into the room and i quickly wiped my tears and pretended that i was asleep .... hoping that i would stop him from waking me up and doing the whole Happy Birthday and presentation ritual....But it didn't ooh.
He woke me up and started singing His remixed version of Happy Birthday (traditional/50 cent style) which i thought was sweet (but my emotions were still all over the place).he then settled down gave me my presents and speech about life, birthdays and his love for me, you should have seen my face : (
I didn't know whether to laugh or cry and so I just let it all out and burst out in tears like a baby yyyyyyyyyyyiiiiiiiiieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee...lol

And as always my understanding sweetheart comforted me and advised me to use the day not only as a day of reflection and counting my mistakes but as a day to be grateful to God for the number of years that he has granted me so far and the wonderful things that he continues to do in my life and so on and so forth....

In the end I decided to set myself new goals that i hope to achieve by my next 21st birthday..lol.
And to appreciate the little things in life that we tend to ignore just because we are sooo focused on the big picture/ dream which does not come easy....


THIS LIFE THAT WE LIVE IS A MYSTERY TO BE LIVED AND NOT A PROBLEM TO BE SOLVED !!

And by the way i am not a cry baby ooh .....all u cheeky people out there.. I know what u r capable of branding me as..

Thanks for all the birthady wishes -NuFf lOvE x x x

Its my Birthday 2day!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!!

I am 21 AGAIN.......lol ; )

Update...Ikomo...Breaking the news!

My people how far oh?.....so i havent broken the news to my momsi yet as she is away @ the moment . I will keep u guys posted. Thanks again for all the constructive advise ... I am really grateful..... STAY BLESSED x x x

Ikomo Prt 2 /Breaking the News

Ohh I have to get it all out.....Sssssssoooooooo much has been going on in this little head and stressful life of mine so let my pour my thoughts out......

Thank God its all over.....Everything went well by His grace. I cant believe that we ended up hosting over 200 people... Talk abt people inviting themselves... But it wasnt bad cus there was more than enough food to go around. lets just say i was running around like a headless chicken from abt 3pm when Menu menu started until about 2am ..whn i finally went to bed...ok ok that's a bit of over exaggerating i did have a few beaks to sit down and chill but trust me i was drained ..haaba....!!

So a few days after the Ikomo my Man switched on me all of a sudden ...accusing me of being too comfortable in our relationship because I do not seem to be taking any proactive actions n order for our relationship to move to the next level (marriage) ei my people it is not easy ooh !!

I must confess that i have been a bit laid back of late but it is not easy when ur mum does not approve of the guy you have been seeing for over 6 years .. because he is not from the same country as u and also of the a different religion. My man and i have tried my very best to make my mum see that she needn't worry as we have thought abt these things carefully and have decided on how to make things work .
I know that my mum is only concerned and being protective but she needs to understand that .. the fact that i get married to someone from the same tribe , country or religion as myself does not gaurantee a happy marriage. It is up to the couple to compromise on their differences and make their marriage a success. I just dont know why everyone (uncles & aunties ) see my point and have advised my mum to give my relationship a chance but she just wont budge!

So i have decided to break the news to my mum......Lord help me ..... i dunno how she is going to take it as she mentioned a months ago that she has nothing more to say abt my relationship(u know what mothers are like ) but i dunno if that means that she accepts my relationship even though she is not keen on it or is that an African mums way of saying U WAIT & SEE WHAT I WILL DO!
What my mum fails to realise is that..s he and my man are ssoo alike and i know that they will get on so well together.....But she has never given him a chance.


I don't blame my man for switching on me anyway.. i understand how he feels .. he has put up with this behaviuor for over 6yrs and still loves me to bits even though my mum never really gives him a chance. God Bless him...He is such a figther and i love him soo much.for always being there and having my back.

I am soo scared of what my mums reaction will be......what if she decides not to give us her blessing ...........i love my man and want to spend the rest of my life with him .. i don't want to loose him after all these years..... so here goes ...Wish me luck......

Ikomo Part 1

Whats up my good people..How una dey? She everything cool sha...? We thank God.




Just thought i should share this with u, My sister in law (My boyfriends brothers wife)had a bouncey baby Girl on Saturday.. So i guess we all know that there has to be one serious Ikomo as she is the first Niece in the family..The 1st of the next generation of my boyf's family and soon to b4ecome my family.
But i must say this: Naija people like big things and for that matter parties ah ah. We are expecting abt 80 - 90 people. so u can just imagine.



I have been to other peoplEs Ikomo and I am not looking forward to this one cus i have seen all the stress that pople go through.. God help us. I guess i better get use to it cus i will definately have one once Mr .O and I have our first child.



Fingers crossed everything will go smoothly.... I will gist u guys and let u know how it went...

Have a wonderful weekend and stay blessed...........................xx x

STUPID ASS MAN!!

I set out for work today with the intention of not letting anything or anyone ruin my day....Only for one stupid ass egg head to piss me off on the bus.WERE, BODAMFO, ADABATO -MAD MAN !!!

Will u believe that this stupid as s egghead of a man....'abused' me for choosing to sit next to him on the bus....just because he preferred his bag resting on the seat that i wanted to sit on. He had the nerve to give me a dirty look which i decided to ignore... but what made me switch was when he then had the audacity to ask me.. if that was the only seat that i could find on the bus.....

The man pissed me off oh... i wont lie. I asked him if he had chattered the bus for his private use and asked him if he didn't realise that people are entitled to sit wherever they desire not bags ....as i paid not use the bus. i took a seat next to him and he continued to mumble but i ignored him. Will u believe that the silly cow only got off the bus after two stops and being the coward that he was only started insulting me and cussing as he got off the bus.....

I then shouted 'Get a life you a life u ugly ass git' and don't be silly!'

I swear i would have opened up a can of insults on him if he had tried to say all those things to me while he was on the bus....

I stopped to think if this silly white man acted the way he did just because i was black or if it was because he just wanted to pick on me ..........

UGLY ASSS GIT

Love thy neigbour .....(Ghanaians & Nigerians)

Hey good people whas up?!

I will first of all like to say a big THANK U to Tayo, 36 Inches of ... and Abujababe, for visiting my page and leaving those interesting comments.

Ok so now to business........ Am I the only one who is sooo fed up of the divisions between Nigerians and Ghanaians and all the rubbish that people believe(that Nigerians are all 419 and Ghanaian do not like Nigerians and Vice versa).
What is all that crap about. And funny enough it doesnt even stop at that....it even exsists amongst our our own communities. For instance, a Yoruba family might not find it funny if thier daughter brought home an Igbo guy as her boyfriend, and it is the same where i came from (Ghana). Marriages between people from different ethnic groups and countries (especially Naija) are never smooth sailing.

Why is this still going on in this day and age, Why are people judged according to country or tribe that they are from. It is just not fair.

I am Ghanaian and always have to deal with people giving me funny looks when i meet them for the first time and mention through conversation that my Boyfriend is Nigerian.....I always get this look as in...'Oh no u didnt'... and i also give them the 'Oh yes i did and i dont give a rass what u say so get over it'

I have been to Lagos a few times and it is a nice place to be (but not as nice as Ghana, no offence), i will admit that it is a bit chaotic with the whole Nepa and the trasportation system (okada & lasma).
I constantly find myself in arguments with my Ghanaian friends and even family who seem to believe that Nigerians are no good and feel that they are better off.

How do we bridge this gap and put an end to all this discrimination.

I will tell you this for nothing Ghanaian and Nigerian culture have soo much in common. We all do and eat the same things ..the only difference is that we all have different names for them. Nigerians eat efo Ghanaians eat Kontomire (Spinach stew), Nigerians drink Pap whiles Ghanaians drink Kooko........oh yeah and we all love our Jollof Rice and Fried Rice.

Nigerians are lovely, very intersting and fun to be around...

So what is the big deal!! Inobi the same blood weh dey flow through our veins.

Wekan life be this !!