Monday, 7 April 2008

Onch......OUCH!!!


One Word: OUCH!!!
Where do i begin....I cant lift my arms too much..., my thighs are aching, my love handles feel like they are about to explode and my as for my abs don't even go there...they are killing me!!!
I bet you've guessed what I'm complaining about.....I have started my mission to keep fit whiles to loosing my love handles and my extra tummy....lol
My mission began last Thursday with a 30 min jog up Hampstead Heath.Oh my Gosh who the hell asked me to be soo adventurous... i had bee contemplating the jog for a few days and decided that I had to take the first step and at least do something so .. i got dressed in my tracksuit bottoms and jumper, hair tied into a sleek pony tail, ipod tacked between by 34f's...lol and i was offf.....call me crazy but i decided to go jogging just as it was getting dark as i was feel a bit self conscious...didn't want people looking at me and thinking...What the hell does she think she is doing?!

But there was none of that I managed to jog half way to the top of the heath (which is 30ft high and has a breath taking view) and walked the rest of the way. I did a few stretches at the top as my thighs were killing me and then jogged all the way from the top to the bottom .....I absolutely enjoyed it and just couldnt wipe the smirk off my face... I must say I was proud of myself for taking the first step.
So now i have decided 30 min jog up hampstead heath 3 times a week, Davina DVD and You tube videos for 3omins at least twice a week.
I am trying my best when it comes to food by having a 100% fruit smoothies, muslie bars for snacks and eating a lot more fruit and veg... oh and I only have carbs with my lunch ...none for dinner. I was advised by a friend to try and eat my vegetables raw rather than steamed or even fried and I must say that I am loving Sweet peppers...red and yellow.. they are my favourite vegetables and i love eating them raw.....
So for those of you out there who said you were also looking for ways of keeping fit or losing some weight Afrobabe, Sha , Pink-satin Overwhelmed Naija Babe, .. there you go......i found these videos on you tube.. trust me they work wonders at working my muscles but they are hard work......I dare you to try them.......Let me know what you think......


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e76mLhSr1yU&feature=related - Love Handles 2 ( I like this one as it also works your abs if you hold your tummy in)

Dunno if you guys remember the post I love u but..I dont TRUST u!! about one of my friend who has a really insecure boyfriend? Well guess what the dude dumped her !! Can you believe it.
So here is what happened......the dude decided in January that things were not working out and asked that they both go their separate ways....my friend(Lets call her Esi) didn't really understand why he had suddenly made that decision as this same dude had discussed marriage with her a few months before and had even asked her to go and get the list for knocking(introduction amd engagement) from her dad.
A few days after this dude broke things off with Esi....she found out from a Friend that the guy had actually been seeing another girl for about 6 months and had gone to perform the introduction ceremony and to ask for the girls hand in marriage. The dude was engaged to the new girl just 3 weeks after breaking up with Esi and will be getting married in June.

Esi is still in a state of shock and just cant let this guy go as she claims that she still loves him....she keeps going to his house and calls him constantly but he doesn't take her calls and refuses to see her whenever she goes to his place. How do you get over a guy who promised you the world and then decides to take it all away from you after 9 years......
What do i say to her and how do i console her...she is an emotional wreck at the moment and i just feel so helpless.
I feel for her as i know what it feels like to be broken hearted......................................

Why do some men have to be so cruel and how does one stop him/herself from falling too deep in order not to feel this hurt when things go wrong?
Where and how does one start all over again......


WHERE ARE THE FEW GOOD MEN WHO KNOW WHAT LOVE IS ALL ABOUT PLEASE HOLLAR IF U R OUT THERE CUS I KNOW A WHOLE LOAD OF BROKEN HEARTED SISTERS OUT THERE WHOSE HEARTS NEED MENDING.



51 comments:

Simi Speaks said...

wooohooooo.. that's crazy.. how decitful. anyways, he will get his in due time. hisssssss

Jaycee said...

Na wa o...

One never believes such stories until they hit close to home (i.e. a friend that you actually know). So basically while he was telling her he wanted to marry her he was literally seeing someone else? Wow. Interesting.

pink gloves said...

Holy crap, tha bastard will get his. 9 yrs of the poor womans life. that is why i say to women, anything past 2 years, you better start shifting around on ur feet.

There isnt much u can do for your friend, just let her grieve and cry on ur shoulder. She needs to stop looking for him. She needs to re-group and refocus. Abeg take her to church mosque, something. Let her find solace in somethin. God will pay dude back in his own coin. no problem.

I commend u for the workout. I have been saying I am gonna go, but i havent made it to the gym yet. lol.

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Charizard said...

wow...crazy bastard...ahahn...that was soo wrong...thankfully we authoritatively know that what goes around will definitely come around...

30+ said...

Well done o, will try that workout video as I am trying to shift a few myself.

As for Esi, thank God she has been delivered but the signs were on the wall all along.

I mean I admire and wonder how some of us ladies stay with a guy that has so much drama...I just can't handle it.

The guy will get his own for sure.

Afrobabe said...

Awwww so sad for ur friend but she better pick herself up and move on...he wasn't worth it....

I registered at a gym last night...I choose a gym because I can complain its too cold to go running plus its on my way home...I have to pass it plus they have a sauna which means I can collapse there....Hope it works...I start 2morro...

guerreiranigeriana said...

congrats lovey on your workout start!!!...you're better than me...i've just been imagining my self more fit...haha...but no real action yet...

..sad about your friend...that shit sucks!!...but i suggest she heal first before entering into anything new otherwise, she may be easily misled...some experiences, we just need in our lives-to build character, to learn from-whatever...i hope she learns what she needed to learn from the experience and grows...

...a little concerned about your choice of songs on the playlist...i was with you with jodeci...but uh keyshia cole talking about she changed her mind (i do like that song though)?...*raised eyebrow*...more power to your workout endeavors!!...

Naapali said...

I suggest u send your friend the book "he is not into you. period". de yeye man made it clear and she still won't get the message.

haba! people ask for a sign and it falls down and slaps them in the face and they keep asking for a sign.

before your friend looks for one of those few good men, she should take stock of herself, her sense of self worth and what she is telegraphing to people. She stayed in an abusive relationship for 9 yrs, has been dumped and betrayed in the coldest way and she is calling him and going to his house???

NikkiSab said...

DAMN!!!!! How wicked of him.....wat d hell for.....why did he not just shut his mouth instead of building castles in d sky. Please tell ur friend to cry it out. She needs to av a good cry and den u tell her to try and let go of d snake who has hurt her. He is not worth it and she should stop loving some one who doesnt love her back. She is wasting her tears, time, effort and love on someone who lied to her, cheated on her and has embarrassed her. It wont be easy but she must repeat to herself even thru her tears dat she is worth more dan dis.

Sha said...

Oh ma gawd dat bastard, pls is he black? nigerian perhaps.. lol
mehn i feel so sorry for ur friend.. i hpe she cn move on from this, the sooner the berra. but it sucks sha.. damn!! Well karma is a bytch he'll get whats coming to him.. law of seed, time n harvest!

wow.. u went jogging? props... never done dat , i remember bak in uni ma gurl used to do it evry morning for like a few weks and we noticed some changes, imma check d vid out too, but i love me the way I is.. hehe have a nice wk love.. mwah xxxx

naijalines said...

She needs to pick herself up and move on. In my experience, the more time u spend moping over the b*stard the further away u are from the good times ahead.

Zena said...

maybe (even though it's hard) we shld see this as a cloud with silver linning, things can only get better, u know things work out in mysterious ways, as for him, he will get what's due

ur foreal on this workout thing ooh!lol well done, my sister just bought this book on ab workouts and she is dealing with me seriously, keep me updated, dunno bout eating raw red and green pepper sha

Olamild said...

HMmmmmmmmmmmmm

Aijay said...

Thats so sad. God has better plans for Esi. Pls keep supporting her..

UndaCovaSista said...

@Naapali - Haba, bros. Whitney Houston sang 'Where do broken hearts go'. The answer? Not to your door. That's for damn sure!

@Arewa - I'm actually listening at the moment to I believe in Love by Syleena Johnson and the lyrics seem appropriate to your friend's situation.

Big up on beginning your exercise regime. Just make sure you stick with it sha...:)

Doja said...

There will be less heartache for we women folk if we learn to spot the signs early, she should just thank GOD it is over....A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage(my mum says).

Bunmmy said...

na wa o! sad sad story....
pls tell her to cry her hearts out,mourn for 9 yrs dat he played hiself and forget him! throw him into the atlantic sea and move AHEAD! its difficult i know but God has prepared someone far better than that @%^&. Idiot!

Bunmmy said...

sorry abt ur pain...try doing lots of stretching,yoga it helps me alot.

ejatutu said...

omo I feel for the gal, how do you console her- by reminding her that someone who is capable of that can also kill you without batting an eyelid.

Listen to her (they say it takes half the time you were with someone to get over them- 9yrs is a long time though)

There are still good and great men (few albeit but rhey still exist)

@30+ women nurture so we always try to mend broken things in all shapes and forms esp men

classybabe said...

After 9 years he dumps her and is ready to marry someone else within the year-some guys are just heartless.

guerreiranigeriana said...

lol @ undacovasista's comment to naapali...

...but, after reading naapali's comment, i think he's right...ole boy was a jerk, but one who gave many signs...well done naapali for calling that as it is...glad to have a man's perspective on that fuckery...

guerreiranigeriana said...

whoa!!!!...holy hell!!!...i just saw the first pic on this post!!...chai!!...i hope you don't look like that arewa!!!...God forbid!!...love your body and all but not that one!!!...*runs to grab her running shoes...to make sure she never ever gets like the lady in that pic...although, she hopes no one is offended...they shouldn't be*...

tobenna said...

Shame that love sometimes ends this way.
She should move on.
Begs the question, was this really love?
I know it probably happens more to ladies. I have friends' ex-babes that I really feel sorry for when the breakups happen. I know how it feels.
I hate to admit it, but I shed tears once (privately, of course) after a breakup and I really know how it feels.
I have to agree with Naapali on this.
STOP and take STOCK.

UndaCovaSista said...

@guerreira - Lol!...i do agree with the content of Naapali's comment, definitely. Just not the tone with which it's delivered....

Sha said...

Ur playlist is so dope

gosh those r like ma fave songs...

Naapali said...

@UC; broken hearts are welcome at my door. In fact I am planning to open a clinic for sundered hearts.

I do remember this lady and the earlier post though. This was my comment then:
"Naapali said...

Glad u r feeling better. sorry about the late wishes.
Your friend should cut her losses and walk away now. This does not look like it will get better.
14 November 2007 13:14 "

This was five months ago. Some pills come sugar coated, some pills don't. People end up in bad relationships sometimes due to no fault of theirs, they remain in them often due to their choices. We should never expect others to treat us better than we treat ourselves. A break-up can be seen as an opportunity to take stock of one's expectations of a relationship and how one expects to be treated. I maintain this young lady should stop lamenting about where the good men went and do some soul searching and healing so she does not allow herself to be put through the same thing by the next cad that walks her way.

So UC I love your forthrightness in saying you do not appreciate my brusque reply. I think this lady will benefit from listening to another Whitney Houston song; Exhale (shoop shoop):

"Everyone falls in love sometime
Sometimes it's wrong, and sometimes it's right
For every win, someone must fail
But there comes a point when
When we exhale "

Pink-satin said...

let me go n check out the youtube videos

what the guy dumped her..i cant imagine what she is going through!9 years and he dumped her like that!!!!believe it or not she is better off without the mother fucker!!i read the other post and the guy would have been a terribly jealous husband who will kill her if she talked to any other man!!!that is a wicked thing he did!!i pray she finds it within her heart to forgive him!!then she should move on and find someone better...na wa o....

Writefreak said...

Oh madam is a on a weight loss plan! Keep it up girl! I registered at the gym recently but since i started work again, i've found it hard to fit it in my schedule, thinking of doing sessions at home!

And as for your friend, it might be hard but i think God saved her from future heartache! She should just try and get over him, allow God to heal her and in time she will see God saved her from future problems!

Smaragd said...

first timer and liking...

I almost started a club once "the B~hearts club" but all my recruits healed up and moved on b4 the club fully started...lol

pls tell ur frnd that the guy might just have done her a favor jare, but cuz of the way he did it, he'll def get his due "ni agbara Olorun".

Aspiring nigerian woman said...

chei! the guy is mean

UndaCovaSista said...

@Naapali - Clinic for Sundered Hearts? Sounds like a religious movement :)

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

ok, something tells me he will actually take her back, if he is as possessive as you made him out to be, he broke up with her to make a point of some sort.

Anyway, there is only so much you can do/say to console your friend. She will eventually realize that her relationship with that guy is not what love is and that there is a man out there that God has chosen and he will treat her like gold.

Take care!

Zena said...

sissy arewa, it is enuff, oya update, pretty please

NigerianDramaQueen said...

Dang, that sucks really bad for your friend. Men, men, men....

NigerianDramaQueen said...

Dang, that sucks really bad for your friend. Men, men, men....

princesa said...

Been a while babes.
Easy on the weight loss process, slow and steady makes it at the end of the day.

On ur friend, too bad.
She just has to let go and live her life once again.

Olamild said...

How's it going?

Zephi Fahrenheit said...

damn...9years?...gosh stories like this mess with my head

guerreiranigeriana said...

lovey, where are you?...come and update...

30+ said...

Mz Ups & Downs where are you. Hope you have not pulled a muscle o, easy does it.

Queen of My Castle said...

Hey Sweets!!!!!

Congrats on the weight loss!!!! Doesn't it make you feel sexy already knowing that you have pushed yourself in your workout and the soreness makes you proud even though it hurts? LOL

Sorry to hear about your friend.

Zena said...

Arewa,

u are in no way being fair right now, please now jo,biko, lahor

Tears said...

oh dear! i cant imgaine how she feels! NINE BLOODY YEARS??????!! that's gotta hurt! i totally agree OUCH!!
looking at those videos, gon try few myself...good work out girl! keep it up!

Afrobabe said...

Hey sweetie, been a long time...how are you???

we miss you here love...

The Last King Of Scotland said...

ur friend will be ok

Writefreak said...

Babe where are you? Missing you, please update!

Funms said...

i love ur blog.... shame about ur friend... it definitely hurts but it'll heal with time... i hope shes much beta cuz i do feel her pain

thanks for d youtube videos.... hows d working out coming?

princesa said...

You okay girl?

Aijay said...

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rebecca said...

At The Seaside

(1)

When I was down beside the sea

A wooden spade they gave to me

To dig the sandy shore.

(2)

The holes were empty like a cup

In every hole the sea camp up,

Till it could come no more.

-----by age of conan